Warning: I’m pissed and I am going to say “Fuck“. A lot.
Men need to stop telling women they see on the street to smile.
If they like smiling so much, then maybe they should walk down the street smiling for absolutely no fucking reason at all. At least then women will know from a safe distance that the man is a lunatic and should be avoided because who else but a wack job would just be walking down the street with a smile on their face?
form one’s features into a pleased, kind, or amused expression, typically with the corners of the mouth turned up and the front teeth exposed.
So here is the breakdown of why I am cracking down on this thing of men telling women they should smile:
- They don’t deserve it.
Okay so who in the hell are you that you think just because you are on the street at the same time that I am that I would be pleased and amused and want to express that toward you? Unless you are Bradley Cooper, Daniel Craig or David Beckham, who I also don’t personally know, then I am not going to smile at you as I walk down the street by myself just because you said so. You deserve a throat punch from me not a smile.
- It is harassment.
Shouting to a stranger “You’re not even going to smile for me?!” Is not less offensive than shouting, “You’re a bitch!” because both make a woman feel unsafe.
- You don’t get to tell me what to do.
This is a command to perform something, a smile. It is saying, “Show me you are pleased with me even though you don’t even know who the hell I am.” No. I smile when I want to.
- It’s rapey. There I said it. Do women ever do this? Hell no! It is a domination thing, an intimidation thing. We do not tell men to smile. We do not randomly tell each other to smile. Men do not do this to other men.
Okay okay, so here’s what happened:
When this happened to me recently, my mind was on the spin training I was on my way to so of course I didn’t expect the shout directed at me, “What you’re not even going to smile for me?” and I simply brushed it off and ignored the asshole but the more I thought about it, the more it pissed me off. If this ever happens to me again, Here is what they will get:
So how do you like me now? Huh? Am I prettier now?
I wonder how this will make him feel? Maybe horrified? Maybe a little bit attacked? Maybe he will think twice before doing it again to another woman? Maybe it will piss him off, I don’t know but I am not going to do what this person says and I am not going to give them the satisfaction of thinking that they intimidated me. Also, fuck him.
I also hate that my daughters will have to deal with this. In fact, they already do. I also hate that much worse happens to women each and every day. This one thing is enough to make my blood boil.
So for the record it is not okay when a man does this to a woman. Just in case anyone thought so. It is straight up harassment and it makes a woman feel unsafe. Also, even if you know the person, it is still rude because you are actually just calling her a bitch whether you know her or not.
And now here is something to really smile about! You may be walking down the street and remember you have one of these chocolaty satisfying snacks in your bag for later and then you won’t be able to help but smile!
Protein Bars recipe
- 2 1/4 cups whey protein
- 1 cup almond butter
- 1 cup coconut unsweetened
- 4 tbs raw honey
- ¼ cup cocoa
- 1 tbs cinnamon
- 1tsp vanilla extract
- 1 tsp Himalayan salt divided into 3/4 tsp and 1/4 tsp
- 1/2 of an 85% – 90% dark chocolate bar.
- Combine all ingredients in a food processor and blend till combined.
- Pour and mold into a 7 x 5 x 1.5 inch glass container lined with wax paper
- Melt half a 85% or 95% dark chocolate bar in the microwave and spread all over the top and sprinkle with 1/4 tsp Himalayan salt.
- Refrigerate for a couple of hours at least and then cut into ten pieces. Wrap individually in wax lined foil paper and store in the refrigerator.
- Total Protein 17.6
- Total Carbs 15.82
- Total Fat 22.44
- Total Calories 317.7
- 7 grams of sugar